Saturday, 8 September 2012

Being Bashed

Hey guys! Just a warning, this a negative post. I thought for quite some time if I should even be making this post (probably shouldn't) but I'm quite annoyed and wanted to vent out. This post follows on from my rant post so please read it if you haven't already to get the full picture of this situation.

OK, so I'm assuming you are up-to-date now and you know who "Soup" is. Earlier today I was just clicking away and reading random blogs. When I do this I usually stumble across a few that I've read. So yeah, I stumble across this blog which I know I've seen before. The blog now had some really cute, interesting photos and foodporn!! So I kept on scrolling hoping to reach some older posts that would remind me of who this blogger was. I sometimes have a memory of a goldfish so the blog's layout did not jog my memory. So there I was, happily scrolling and reading until I get to a rant post. The post was bashing me. I realized that the blog I've been reading belonged to Soup.


Not going to include the source because I still want to keep Soup anonymous

I know, I probably should have stopped reading but I'm just a girl that has too much curiosity! If you read my rant post, you'll know that the focus of the rant wasn't on Soup. It was just on, as the title suggested, meaningless comments. I really wasn't trying to bash her. Soup just happened to be unluckily featured by me. I tried my best to word the post in a way to avoid Soup from getting offended. Yes, I admit, I may have said some harsh things in that post (I just wanted to make a point) but it wasn't all directed at Soup.

So it's turns out that I failed and the rant had hit a spot on Soup (eventhough she claims she's not affected by it which clearly isn't true). I want to publicly apologize because I am genuinely sorry if I've upset or annoyed her. Apparently she wasn't not looking for popularity so I'm sorry for accusing her for that too. However, Soup has annoyed and offended me a bit too. She has said a number of things about me which I don't think are true. For example, I don't feel she has the right to be saying that I "love to rant" when I've only ever done one rant post; I actually try to avoid ranting on my blog because I know the majority of people would much rather be reading something that is a bit more positive. I also really don't get how I can be called "insecure" because of my rant post. That's just unnecessary. I could continue and make a whole list and turn this into a proper rant post but I'm better than that. The amount of hypocrisy is so damn high in her post I may go on for days!! (oops, kind of ranted)  

Yeah, that's all I really want to say. I'm sorry that I upset Soup and even drove her to write a rant post. However, it not a nice feeling when somebody make false claims about you. I'm going to be honest because I'd be lying if I said I wasn't affected, but some of the stuff she's said about me have truly pissed me off.

Oh well, it's not like Soup's significant in my life. I'm not going to waste anymore time on this situation. Time to forget about this, move on and think positive :)

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  1. Don't let it get to you! I think you are absolutely confident and not at all insecure and you are lovely! ♥ I don't know why people would do this to you!

    I know for me, I would've got all up in her grill (LOL) and possibly started a huge thing, but I really admire how you kept this on the down low and handled it maturely. A+ to you!
    At this point, I think everyone did something wrong as it takes two to have a disagreement. If she apologizes, then I'd call it even since you have apologized many times in this post.

    Also, I think this is a perfectly fine place to be writing a rant post because it IS your blog. If I had things to rant about I would because you could get many many opinions on the situation(and maybe some haters but screw them) and get it behind and over with.

    Long story short, A+ to you for handling this maturely! Absolutely admire you ♥

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    1. Awww thanks Queenie ♥
      Hahaa wow I'm glad I give off that impression but I do have my off days now and again xP
      Yeah I agree that both of us did something wrong an that it is OK to rant once in a while! Can't keep everything bottled up right ;D

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  2. I just read your previous rant post - I agree, those pointless 'follow me and I'll follow back' comments really annoy me. Like, we blog for ourselves, no one should feel obligied to follow each other. In essence, don't we want readers, not followers? I think you have great intergrity if you still reply to them, I don't. Especially one's who don't realize they've been on my blog more than once and committed the offence numerously -_- I love how you've nicknamed her 'Soup' hahaha! So biggest facepalm when I read she commented twice then tried to delete it -_- Now reading this 'Being Bashed post', I seriously can't believe she had the tenacity to bash on you. Shameless. Honestly, just shameless. She is living in a bubble if she thinks you're insecure, how are you even so if you're not even naming her, but in fact framing her annoying crime? I really don't like how ignorant she comes off, bah, you so do not deserve to even concern yourself with such persons. And no one can be complacent on blogging, its our blog and we can pretty much do whatever we want with it right? So to assume you 'love ranting' is unfair. I admire how you handled this situation so fair-headedly :)

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    1. Ahh yeah it's pretty random! I happened to be drinking soup at the time haha~! I really wanted to hide her identity (and still do) so she doesn't feel like I'm pointing fingers at her
      Yeah I can't believe it either :s But hey, like you said, we can pretty much do whatever we what. It's her blog so she can say anything she wants whether it's nice or not

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  3. O.O wow... she is actually thanking you for giving her that attention in your rant?? -__- I hate people who think like that. And she had to make a post about it too??

    Thanks for keeping a calm and mature mind about this.

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    1. Ahh I know right!! That sort of bugs me. I hid her identity to save her so there wasn't that much attention. I'm not sure why she thanked me . __ ."

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  4. I dislike how she false claims about you. Bashing you because you have just been true to yourself wasn't right either. You just let your feelings out without even bashing her.

    I hope she reads this and realize her part and fault as well.

    Cheer up, Jing!

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    1. Yeah I really don't like that! I read some of the comments on that post and some people were agreeing and laughing along with her which makes me even more mad!! I wish they knew the whole story ¬__¬

      Thanks for your concerns Kristen!! I'm OK now that it's out my system so don't worry c:

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  5. Oh my my, i just went into your archive to read the last post. You ranting is by all means reasonable, it is your blog! And it is unfortunate that soup was featured and although I can understand why she would be upset, the way she replied to your post justified nothing and I do not agree with the way she worded herself. But I respect you for creating this post as a public apology and that you have kept her anon the entire time. (and I am guilty of listening to requests of "follow me and i will follow you" its a bad habit of mine to say no but I dont feel good about doing it :( so im working on it! Haha)
    I hope this topic will be cleared up, and it should if she truly admires you!

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    1. Whoops, meant its a bad habit of mine to *not be able to* say no :P

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    2. Ahh I know right! I didn't see what was the point in her post other than to complain that she was in my rant (which I didn't even say her name) and then bashing me for it. Sometimes I wonder does she actually want me to keep her anonymous. It's sorta easy for readers to spot a name that begins with a "J" and repeats. Making that post did not help her at all...
      I'm just going to forget and do nothing more about this situation but I hope it clears up too~!

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  6. Oh my gosh.
    All I can say is, good for you, for bothering to apologize and write this post.

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    1. That's what I thought when I saw that post. I still can't quite believe this has happened. I knew I might upset her a little but never did I think I'd get a response and get bashed...

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  7. I'm super curious about this mysterious 'soup' person now lol I haven't gone hunting through your comments for the girl ... yet - why give her more attention than she wants right? To be honest, you can do whatever the hell you want, go rant about whatever and whoever. It's your blog, your life, your opinions. What she says has shouldn't bother you too much, she's just backlashing to get attention... also, did you notice her grammar and spelling? It makes me cry.

    Good on you for making an apologetic post though, shows you're a much bigger person and you didn't mean to 'back-stab' her at all. I hope everything gets better and this 'soup' girl doesn't spazz about you again!

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    1. LOL Jen! I'm not going to stop you because I can't but yeah you're right. I know she's said she doesn't want attention but I don't quite believe that...
      And yeah I did! It kind of annoyed me too but I'm gonna assume English wasn't her first language so I shouldn't really hate ^^"

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  8. Oh dearie me. Poor you! Aah, this bugs me so much. Don't let her get to you, what you wrote was your opinion and it was about something that most bloggers encounter! I don't understand how her spamming your page to advertise her own blog wasn't to gain popularity either? Aiyaaah. It is your blog so you are entitled to express your own viewpoint. For that post, you spoke in very general way that it could have been about anyone.
    After this situation, I definitely respect you more chick! Keep strong! Lots of love to you! <3

    I'll follow you if you follow me? ;) jk jk

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  9. Haha i wish i knew who she was xD People are stupid don't let it get to you, she has nothing else better to do trust me. She just wants a lot of attention which is why she was spamming the hell outta your page and others. Forget about her, not worth your time.

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